Guests Episodes

Previously, we explored somatic therapy through the lens of pleasure and embodiment, revealing how the body can hold wisdom about our experiences. Many gay men carry tension, stress, and internalized shame from years of hypervigilance and navigating societal pressures, which can quietly shape how they move, feel, and relate to themselves. In this episode, Sean Hershey, a somatic therapist, joins us to share how somatic therapy can help gay men release these patterns, calm the nervous system, and...

Historically, LGBTQ+ storylines in literature, film, and television were confined to predominantly tragic narratives, where heartbreak, loss, or death defined queer characters. Today, that representation is evolving, with authentic, multidimensional portrayals of LGBTQ+ characters navigating complex emotions, relationships, and life stages that reflect real queer experiences. In this episode, Steven Rowley, New York Times bestselling author of The Guncle, joins us to delve into his newest novel,...

Previously, we’ve discussed how growing up gay in a world that often misunderstood or rejected us can leave deep emotional scars. In adulthood, these wounds may show up as shame, fear of intimacy, self-doubt, or difficulty trusting both ourselves and others. In this episode, Chris Tompkins, founder of A Road Trip to Love, joins us to explore how gay men can recognize, nurture, and heal the wounded parts of their inner child to transforming past pain into self-acceptance. Related Episodes: Listen...

In previous episodes, we’ve explored the unique body image pressures placed upon gay men, from the intense focus on gym culture and the idealized twink aesthetic to broader societal expectations and body obsession. These pressures can contribute to disordered eating, a struggle that is often overlooked in men despite its prevalence in the gay community. In this episode, Kyle Ridley, an Emmy Award winning journalist, joins us to discuss his personal experiences with disordered eating, the unique ...

While drag is a pop culture staple, its roots trace back to the historic Ballroom scene of the 1800s, where Black and Latinx communities built chosen families and celebrated identity through competitive balls. That legacy lives on today through drag performers who embrace fandom and storytelling with humor, heart, and cultural influence. In this episode, Heavens 2 Betsy Stratton, Miss Gay Pennsylvania America 2025, joins us to discuss the intersection of drag, Black queer identity, and the endur...

In previous episodes, we explored how to stay focused on attracting the right kinds of guys into our lives and the power of manifestation. As we move into the new year, we have the opportunity to realign our intentions and open ourselves to the experiences, relationships, and growth we truly desire. In this episode, Ryan Lu joins us to unpack how manifestation can empower queer people step into their authentic selves and shape the lives they want. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 18. Setting ...

For gay men, pop culture and reality TV often provide campy, glamorous spaces that echo queer experiences of self-expression and resilience. The Real Housewives franchise, in particular, captivates with its mix of drama, individuality, and over-the-top spectacle. In this previously released Patreon bonus episode, Eric Praniewicz dives into the world of The Real Housewives to explore why the franchise resonates so strongly with gay men. Join Patreon for more exclusive monthly bonus episodes like ...

As we close out 2025, it’s hard to ignore this year’s political turmoil, with uncertainty about our future looming over us. With the holidays upon us, it’s natural to feel bittersweet as we look back and dream of brighter days ahead. In this episode, we’re revisiting this year's most powerful conversations on politics, identity, and resilience, reminding us that hope, unity, and love can overcome fear. Related Episodes: Listen to Episode 136. Closets & Cocktails: The Secret History of Gay Speake...

In previous episodes, we’ve discussed how stereotypical gay culture has idolized youth, beauty, and sex. This fixation has led some gay men to equate midlife with “aging out” of the community, often resulting in internalized shame and a complicated relationship with aging. In this episode, Hunter Flournoy, a licensed therapist, coach, breathworker, healer, and spiritual guide, joins us to talk about how gay men can confront ageism and create more fulfilling, authentic lives in midlife and beyond...

LGBTQ+ history has long been overlooked, ignored, or actively erased, leaving us with only fragments of a past that deserves to be preserved and celebrated. That absence makes historical fiction a meaningful platform for reclaiming space and allowing queer characters to exist in time periods that have traditionally denied their presence or humanity. In this episode, Jeza Belle, a New York City-based drag queen and author of The Freedom to Love, joins us to discuss the power of storytelling throu...

Previously, we discussed how some queer men find solace and empowerment in spiritual practices like astrology, which offers a means of self-discovery and affirmation. Rooted in introspection and symbolism, queer astrology can help individuals reclaim their narratives and connect more deeply with their authentic selves. In this episode, Danny Santos, an astrologer, tarot expert, and psychic medium, joins us to explore how spiritual tools like astrology can support queer individuals in navigating ...

Social media has created vibrant online communities where LGBTQ+ people can connect, share experiences, and affirm their identities. Platforms like TikTok offer support, visibility, and a sense of belonging that many may not find in their offline lives. In this episode, Nick Paul of The Wicked Pumpkin joins us to explore how TikTok nurtures queer community, creativity, and connection, especially during spooky season, when Halloween’s themes of transformation and self-expression resonate deeply w...

Queer beauty celebrates self-expression, authenticity, and fluidity, challenging traditional beauty standards and embracing identities across the spectrum. By centering queer voices, beauty becomes a powerful tool for empowerment, allowing individuals to reclaim their image and take pride in their identity. In this episode, Vincent Branchesi and Karim Fadel, co-founders of Grimoire, join us to discuss how they’re redefining beauty and masculinity with their queer-owned skincare brand and explore...

Societal pressure on men to appear tough and self-reliant can lead to the avoidance of medical care since vulnerability is wrongly equated with weakness. For gay men, this is further complicated by the fear of discrimination or judgment in healthcare settings, creating additional barriers to accessing necessary treatment. In this episode, Mickie Kennedy, author of Glandscapes, joins us to discuss how queer identity and masculinity intersect with health and vulnerability, breaking taboos around g...

Queer bookstores have long been more than just places to buy books, serving as cultural hubs, safe havens, and essential spaces for connection, representation, and affirmation within the LGBTQ+ community. As we navigate an increasingly hostile political landscape, building and sustaining these spaces is not only an act of resistance, but one of resilience and solidarity. In this episode, Greg Newton and Donnie Jochum, co-founders of the Bureau of General Services—Queer Division (the Bureau), joi...

Many gay men grow up internalizing social norms that dictate how they should act, love, or present themselves—distorting their sense of self and making it harder to connect authentically with others. But we can begin to heal when we embrace radical acceptance, challenge outdated narratives, and learn to show up for ourselves with compassion. In this episode, Sam Fogarty, a licensed therapist and clinical supervisor at myTherapyNYC, joins us to explore the power of affirming, authenticity-centere...

For gay men, humor has long been a powerful tool for resilience, offering both a means of survival through marginalization and a way to reclaim joy and identity. As queer comedy evolves and gains mainstream visibility, it remains a radical act of authenticity, resistance, and connection—especially during Pride, when celebrating visibility and community is more important than ever. In this episode, Michael John Ciszewski joins us to share his journey as a queer comedian and explore how humor fuel...

We've previously explored how LGBTQ+ history has often been overlooked, ignored, or deliberately erased, demonstrating the importance of remembering and honoring our past. Despite ongoing attacks from the current administration aimed at censoring or rewriting queer history, LGBTQ+ historians continue to preserve it, ensuring that our stories and the figures who shaped them are not forgotten. In this episode, Keith Stern, author of Queers in History, joins us discuss the evolution of his grou...

The current state of LGBTQ+ rights and politics reflects both significant progress and mounting challenges, with ongoing debates over transgender rights, workplace protections, and marriage equality. Activism, rooted in the community’s historic struggle for equality, continues to drive the Pride movement’s call for visibility, justice, and protection against rising anti-LGBTQ+ legislation and rhetoric. In this episode, Mari Nemec, Advocacy Counsel for the National LGBTQ+ Bar Association, joins u...

While Pride is often seen as a time for parades and rainbow flags, it can also be a reminder of the trauma, shame, and disconnection that many LGBTQ+ people, especially gay men, carry within themselves. Yet Pride can also be a time of reclamation, offering an opportunity to honor queer joy and reconnect with our desires and authentic selves. In this episode, Court Vox, a leading somatic sex educator, surrogate partner, and founder of The BodyVox, joins us to discuss how we can heal through pleas...

In previous episodes, we discussed how pop culture has long served as a powerful space for gay men to find representation, expression, and community, offering both a reflection of their struggles and a source of empowerment. Within this space, dolls and collectibles further provide a medium for gay men to explore themes of identity, often becoming symbols of empowerment and nostalgia within queer culture. In this episode, Chris Angelo, a Bratz collector, joins us to discuss the intersection of h...

In previous episodes, we explored how LGBTQ+ media representation has evolved significantly since the early days of cinema, shifting from largely negative stereotypes and hidden identities to more nuanced and diverse portrayals of queer experiences. Despite this progress, there still seems to be a lack of LGBTQ+ voices and perspectives behind the cameras, ensuring that characters are authentically represented. In this episode, AJ Mattioli, a trans producer, director, and owner of Mattioli Produc...

LGBTQ+ individuals often navigate the diverse landscape of the queer community to forge connections that resonate with their identities, seeking spaces where they feel seen, understood, and supported. The bear community, with its celebration of body positivity and inclusivity, provides a unique subculture within the larger LGBTQ+ spectrum, fostering a strong sense of belonging and community engagement. In this episode, Mark Singer, founder of Chumley’s BearCruises, joins us to discuss his ex...

In a time when relationships are no longer confined to traditional labels, ethical non-monogamy allows gay individuals to build connections that align with their unique desires and values. By fostering open communication, trust, and mutual consent, non-monogamous relationships can provide fulfilling connections that honor the evolving dynamics of love and partnership. In this episode, Jeff Hudson joins us to share his personal journey with ethical non-monogamy, discussing the challenges and ...