A Jaded Gay

For many LGBTQ+ people, friendship can become an important source of connection, support, and chosen family. The people who stand beside us through heartbreak, major life changes, and unexpected twists often help us figure out who we are and remind us that we don't have to navigate life's challenges alone. In this episode, I'm joined by my bestie Sara Solomon to discuss the real-life friendship behind my book Besties in Crime. What started as a way to turn heartbreak and unexpected life chang

In 1970s San Francisco, Harvey Milk emerged as a political force in the Castro, turning a neighborhood camera shop into the center of a movement and giving a growing LGBTQ+ community a voice in local government. His historic election, outspoken fight for gay rights, and tragic assassination would make him one of the most influential figures in LGBTQ+ history. In this episode of A Jaded Gay, we're tracing Milk's journey from his early life and relationships to his rise as a political leader in

With their irresistible combination of beauty, mischief, and supernatural flair, demon twinks have become one of gay culture's most fascinating archetypes. Born from a viral night at a Britney Spears-themed boat party, this playful label has become part of gay internet lore, celebrating the unpredictable and delightfully chaotic side of queer culture. In this episode, we're tracing the origins of the demon twink, from its viral beginnings to its connections with celebrities, queer films, and

If you listen closely, today's political rhetoric may sound eerily familiar to that of the Lavender Scare during the Cold War, when fear of communism wasn't the only threat driving anxiety in the United States. As fears about homosexuality became intertwined with national security concerns, the U.S. government began investigating, surveilling, and firing gay and lesbian federal employees who were deemed a threat. In this episode, we’re going back to the origins of the Lavender Scare and the ...

Rejection doesn’t always come in the form of a breakup or an outright rejection. For gay men and other LGBTQ+ people, it can show up in the small moments that leave us feeling ignored, unwanted, or disconnected, from a dating app match who suddenly disappears to someone making assumptions about our sexuality or identity. In this episode, we’re exploring the psychology of micro-rejections, how repeated experiences of rejection can shape gay dating and relationships, and why LGBTQ+ people may fac

Previously, we explored somatic therapy through the lens of pleasure and embodiment, revealing how the body can hold wisdom about our experiences. Many gay men carry tension, stress, and internalized shame from years of hypervigilance and navigating societal pressures, which can quietly shape how they move, feel, and relate to themselves. In this episode, Sean Hershey, a somatic therapist, joins us to share how somatic therapy can help gay men release these patterns, calm the nervous system, an