Be Nice, But Not Too Nice As we begin a new year, many of us embrace the idea of a fresh start. For some, this includes wading back into the dating pool, eager for love and connection. However, without addressing unresolved issues from the past, we…
And That, My Friend, is What They Call Closure As each year draws to a close, it's natural to feel a whirlwind of emotions. We often look back on the highs and lows, reflecting on how much has changed. For some, the end of the year brings a sense o…
If Being Anxious Was a Form of Exercise, I’d Be Jacked Body image pressure is a prevalent source of anxiety for many gay men. The "perfect" body—often imagined as tall, muscular, and traditionally masculine—has become the standard…
As Nina Sayers Says in Black Swan, “I Just Want to be Perfect.” Perfectionism is a complex personality trait that manifests across various aspects of our lives, including career success, body image, and personal achievements. At its cor…
Just Because I Don’t Fit Into the Gay Party Scene Doesn't Mean I Have to Settle for Mediocre Heteros Finding a sense of community within the LGBTQ+ world is essential, especially for those of us who have experienced gay loneliness. Yet, some …
Is It Me? Am I the Homophobe? Many have heard the term internalized homophobia, but few fully understand it. It's often used to describe a gay man who seems sexually repressed or self-loathing. However, the concept delves much deeper than these sur…
Oh, Shit, We're Really Doing This Here we are, diving headfirst into the deep end. Buckle up because we're about to explore some real truths. In an earlier blog post, I explained that I launched A Jaded Gay to create a space for like-minded gay me…